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“Few books open your mind to a new way of seeing an issue. This book is the rare exception…impassioned and highly readable.”
–Isabel Sawhill, Brookings Institution

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Greater Good Magazine’s Favorite Parenting Books of 2022

A Next Big Idea Club nominee

Best Parenting Book of 2023 from Independent Publisher Book Awards

The Parent Trap is a provocative, well-written, and creative analysis of the problem of parenting in America and what to do about it, making a bold case for policy changes to support parents and children in new ways.”

James J. Heckman, Henry Schultz Distinguished Service Professor in Economics and the College, University of Chicago; recipient of the 2000 Nobel Prize in Economics

“Hilger expertly weaves together cutting-edge science and historical narratives to give us a fresh perspective on how we can help parents raise children and combat growing inequality across generations. Captivating, rigorous, and insightful, this book will be valuable for everyone from parents to policy makers.”
Raj Chetty, William A. Ackman Professor of Economics, Harvard University

“Few books open your mind to a new way of seeing an issue. This book is the rare exception. The right role for parents, according to Hilger, is not to provide children the skills they need to succeed but to band together to advocate for new and better policies in the public domain. This impassioned and highly readable book lays out an ambitious policy agenda supported by a fresh way of seeing deep inequalities by race and class.”
Isabel Sawhill, Senior Fellow, the Brookings Institution; author of The Forgotten Americans and Generation Unbound

“DON’T READ THIS BOOK—unless you want assumptions on the origins of inequality replaced with facts. Nate Hilger brilliantly weaves together the very best social science research on youth outcomes and parenting to highlight our successes but also how our society can do much better if we dare.”
—Bruce Sacerdote, Richard S. Braddock 1963 Professor in Economics, Dartmouth College

“Surely among the most important books of the year. This groundbreaking and clearly written book offers concrete solutions for one of the biggest problems facing contemporary society: the unreasonable expectations we place on parents. A must-read for scholars, policy makers, activists, and, yes, parents.”
Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, New York Times bestselling author of Everybody Lies


“Hilger makes a compelling argument for federal investment in child-rearing.”—Library Journal

“Hilger is willing to say truths that are often not said. . . . An interesting and challenging book.”—Alex Tabarrok, Marginal Revolution
 
“[Hilger’s] book is both informative and a call to action for those who care about the well-being of children—which should be all of us.”—Jill Suttie, Greater Good Magazine
 
“Terrific—smartly argued and very well written. The basic theme is that society needs to do more to help children build skills outside of the normal school day.”—Greg Mankiw’s Blog
 
“[The Parent Trap] brings together a lot of data in pursuit of a valuable and noble goal. Many kids in the US (and Europe) get a bum deal and their talent is not realized! . . . The Parent Trap has a clear diagnosis of the problem, and believes it is worth trying to fix it.”—David Hugh-Jones, Less Wrong blog

Nate Hilger is a researcher and writer. He earned a bachelor’s degree in economics from Stanford University and a PhD in economics from Harvard University. He has worked as a professor of economics at Brown University, and is currently an economist and data scientist in Silicon Valley and an affiliate of the Population Studies and Training Center at Brown. In 2020 he served as a lead policy consultant on early childhood and non-K12 child development issues for Pete Buttigieg’s presidential campaign. His academic research on child development and inequality has been published in The Quarterly Journal of Economics and other leading peer-reviewed journals, and has been featured in The New York TimesThe Washington Post, The Atlantic, and other major media outlets. He lives with his wife and two kids in Redwood City, California. 

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